Would you refuse to see a doctor if you’d broken your arm?

Instead what if you decided to take matters into your own hands, protect your arm, hoping for the best?  Of course we’re not choosing this!.  Seeing a physician is a no-brainer.  We would no more risk having our arm heal improperly – possibly losing full range of motion – than we would seriously consider such a solution in the first place.

So why is seeing a specialist for your “broken heart” not a similar no-brainer?

This lose – whether caused by death, divorce or a life transition – is so ‘up-close-and-personal’ that we’re devastated, or maybe still stunned and disbelieving.  All we know is that “I’m not myself!” and this is unnerving.  Our life and its future, seems shredded and near destroyed by tornado-like whirlwinds caused by this loss. ‘How am I gonna survive this?” we ask yourself silently.

Now is not the time to protect your shattered heart and life by wrapping both in familiar myths like ‘time heals,’ – no it doesn’t! –  or ‘you’re such a Rock, you’ll get thru this!’  Really?  What a crock!   By deciding to suck-it-up, you only stumble into yet another day.  Weeks, months can pass.  Maybe even years, only to discover that while you did indeed ‘heal,’ you’ve unwittingly healed but, without full range of emotion., just like your arm healed but without full range of motion!   Yeah, while time will heal you, that doesn’t mean you’ll heal emotionally healthy!  Now what…… Hmm.

It’s not too late to reverse this outcome, or better yet, prevent it and instead heal fully and healthily by getting professional help.

Choose to call me, a grief counselor with 30 years of exclusively loss & grief experience with family members who, like you, saw no hopeful tomorrows because today was so barren and joyless.