WHEN OTHERS THINK, ‘YOU’RE SO STRONG.’

If you’d broken your arm, would you refuse to see a doctor and instead decide to take matters into your own hands by wrapping your arm and hope for the best?  Of course not, seeing a physician is a no-brainer!  We would no more risk having our arm heal improperly – possibly losing full range of motion – than we would seriously consider such a ‘solution’ in the first place.

So why is seeing a specialist for your shattered heart not a similar no-brainer?  This lose – whether caused by death or a divorce, anticipated or not – is so ‘up-close-and-personal’ that you’re devastated, or maybe still stunned and disbelieving.  All you know is that you are not yourself and this is unnerving.  Your life, its future, seems shredded and destroyed by tornado-like whirlwinds of emotion and pain caused by this loss.  “How am I gonna survive this?” you ask yourself silently.

Now is not the time to become your own healer, deciding to protect your shattered heart and life by wrapping them in familiar adages like ‘time heals,’ or ‘you’re so strong, you’ll get thru this!’  Wanting to be strong – ‘others are depending on me’ you silently fret – you decide to suck-it-up and stumble into yet another day.  Weeks, months pass.  Maybe even years, only to discover that while you did indeed ‘ heal’ you’ve unwittingly healed but without full range of emotion. [See: Prince Henry, Son of Deceased Mom, Princess Diana].  Now what…… Hmm.

It’s not too late to reverse this outcome, or better yet  prevent it and instead, heal fully and healthily by getting professional help.

Choose to call me, a grief counselor with 20-plus years of exclusive loss & grief experience with family members who, like you, saw no hopeful tomorrows because today was so barren and joyless.